Long time geek, fangirl, mother, and reader. I've got a lot to say, you might not like it all, but it will be honest and hopefully helpful.
There seems to be a glut of Urban Fantasy today. People who read the odd fantasy book once seemed to believe that fantasy novels involved dragons and Morris men; today, such people most likely think that fantasy must have a vampire, werewolf, and a sexy woman involved in a love triangle. Gone are the days of vampires and werewolves as the evil dictators who must be destroyed. The average person stands a better chance of being the villain than those one time horror matinee characters. While many of these books seem to invert standard gender roles and supposedly endorse a degree of sexual freedom for women, a closer look reveals a disturbing and confusing message about the nature of “good” women and sex.
One of the most astute breakdowns of how Paranormal Romance (specifically the Anita Blake books) normalizes rape/non-consensual sex.