The Fangirl

Okay, we've just been told that Ree is a "queer," and she's having a "common queer girl problem" of not knowing when another woman is hitting on her.

"If it's too much, you can always go home." Jane winked, then leaned over to adjust the strap on her show, giving Ree just a bit of a look down the star's shirt.

How old is Ree and what kind of lack of experience with women does she have that she doesn't know when another woman is hitting on her? 

Also, what kind of gross, friend zone level of misinformation is this shit, where you catch a woman at an angle where you can see down her shirt is characterized as her flirting or hitting on you? 

Seriously, I hang out with women who fuck other women (lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals and queer, etc) and I don't suddenly take a wink or even a hug to mean they're going to spread their legs for me. When I see a straight man's ass crack I don't think "is he hitting on me?"

Yes, women can be more subtle in how they flirt, but as a woman I don't jump to these kind of conclusions based on the behavior Jane has exhibited so far. If anything I would think about how much I like her, and how I should or could delicately brooch the subject of telling her how I feel without freaking her out. 

I'm sure that I'm supposed to interpret all this to mean that Ree is utterly inept when it comes to flirting/dating other women, but it very a weird to me that a woman would make these dramatic assumptions about what seems to be another woman's very benign behavior. I mean, most women have experienced situations where their casual, or friendly behavior was been misinterpreted to mean more. Or even been accused of putting male friends into the "friend zone" in similar situations. So, why doesn't Ree think of that? Instead of just being vaguely unsure.

This is the difference between a distinct female characterization and presenting a male narrative perspective as female. Sexual and social dynamics between women are very different than the ones between men and women. Not to mention, the presentation of this situation is extremely problematic in the way it feeds into rape culture stereotypes.

It's skeeving me out.