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The Fangirl

Long time geek, fangirl, mother, and reader. I've got a lot to say, you might not like it all, but it will be honest and hopefully helpful.

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls.

Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls - Rachel Simmons

[From an interview with a group of eighth grade girls.]


"So if one of your friends has done something to bug you or make you mad, or sad, do you tell her about it?"


"No!" came a chorus.


"Why?" I asked.



[Later on in the same conversation.]


"What if," I asked, "you were just telling someone how you felt, because you felt bad? You know, to make yourself-your friendship- feel better?"


"Then you might hurt her feelings," one said. Nods. Locking eyes.


"Can you tell someone the truth and not be mean?" I asked.


"The truth hurts," a girl in the corner said quietly. "That's why I lie."